What happens when you lop off or collapse human beingness? How does that influence the experience that person has? The experience others have with that person?
Much of what we know about how people work comes from studying deficits, from studying the behavior of people who are missing something. What happens when people, either by birth or through an accident, are missing specific parts of their brain? How do they behave different than “normal” people, people who still have that part of the brain? Researchers discovered that those people with the deficit could not feel certain things, or smell, or count. Dr. Oliver Sacks has written some very approachable books on research in this area. In essence, this huge body of research shows that people lacking something that most people have behave different than most people.
This deficit-based approach leads me to ask, what would happen to a human being that was closed off from their relationship to others? To their own self? To the group? To nature? To spirit? To the vibrant essence of being human? Then I add on to this thought the experience of the agreements embedded in human interactions. In many human interactions, we accept that it is okay to be closed off from these primary relationships. In essence, we agree to having our human beingness lopped off, collapsed. We agree to operate from a human beingness deficit. Why? Why would we ever want people we engage with daily to operate from a beingness deficit? To operate from a state of being much less than they normally are?
Lots of recent research shows that this is quite normal in the workplace. While some disagree with the high degree suggested in these findings, none disagree that it exists. I suggest that this is a choice, a choice that most of us are unaware of, but a choice nonetheless. Ecosynomics shows how to see the choice and choose a different agreement.
I would love to hear what you think. Why do we lop off human beingness in our interactions? What can do to engage the full human beingness sitting right in front of us? Please share what you think here.