People complain. As highly attuned beacons and processors of what is happening inside of ourselves and in our environments, people know when they are experiencing what they want to experience. When the reality they experience differs from what they want, they complain.
If the energy they want to engage towards a purpose that pulls them is not engaged towards that purpose, the energy and the frustration of its misapplication leak out, in the form of emotions, of whining. We can look at whining as an annoyance, of someone else hefting their pains, their difficulties, on us. Something to be avoided. Or we can receive the feedback.
Feedback is when the universe lets us know what happened when our vision of the possible and a pathway to manifest the possible intersect with reality, when they become real, when they tangibilize. When a person’s purposeful energy is not engaged as expected, towards their own purpose or towards the one they were invited to contribute to, they get frustrated, their unengaged energy wells up, and it begins to leak. That hissing sound of the tightly lidded, over-boiling pot is called whining. It is feedback.
The question is what to do with the feedback. To know what to do, we have to inquire, to ask a question. What is going on? The leaking of frustration might come out with a lack of clarity. As an emotional expression, sometimes it is hard to express the frustration in clear terms, in terms of the lack of engagement towards one’s intended purpose. A process of inquiry explores the feedback, the misaligned purposeful energy.
One can inquire with another, co-hosting their process of discovery. One can inquire on one’s own, with coaching support. One can also inquire as a group. The point is to see that there is feedback, which can be ignored, or the feedback can be received, allowing the possibility of a shift in agreements, so that the purposeful energy can be engaged. The whining is feedback, the choice is whether to receive it or not.
Note: Hat tip to LS for the inquiry.
Reflections of a Pactoecographer 