Step #2 in Choosing the Experience You Have, Every Day — Mapping Your Current Experience

You can choose the experience you have, every day.  In the first blogpost in this series, we made the distinction between low and high vibrancy experiences–the 1st step in choosing the experience you want.

In the 2nd step, we map your current experience.  We will use the 3 Circle diagram to capture the description of your experience, in a way that differentiates the qualities of the experience you have and want.  In the following 24-minute video, you and I take this second step.


When you map your experience onto the 3 Circle diagram in the video, what level of vibrancy do you see?

You can validate where you map this experience through the more in-depth, free, online, 12-minute survey we have used globally by clicking here.


Integrating Possibility, Development, and Things

The 6th in a 9-post series on Perceived Levels of Reality

With the three levels of reality, as they relate to what is available in the three circles of harmonic vibrancy (see 3 circles here), I can now describe how people work with all three levels. Taking the five relationships in the 3-circles graphic and laying them flat along the top-line, the figure below shows these three levels of perceived reality for each of the five primary relationships.


By integrating the three levels of perceived reality with the five primary relationships, we will be able to see that the level of harmonic vibrancy and abundance available depends completely on how you work with this matrix.  I will show you that people use one of three pathways through this reality-relationship mix, and that the pathway determines the agreements available in those relationships.  Before I describe this, though, I will describe the intersection of levels of reality and relationships captured in the figure above.  It is foundational for the rest of our exploration of ecosynomics and the harmonic vibrancy of abundance.

This will be brief, as I have already described all of these elements as we looked at the human experience of relationship to the self, other, group, nature, and spirit.  For now I will simply point at the experience described in detail earlier.  At the possibility-light level, in the figure above, you see the possibility in who you can be, who someone else can be, and who the group can be.  In nature you experience the infinite possibilities of what light-energy could be.  In spirit you experience the deep source of creativity in everything everywhere always.  At the development-verb level, you experience the developing of your capacities and relationships over time, as well as the developing of the same for others and for the group.  In nature you experience the flows of manifesting, as people work with different tangible and intangible elements, such as building a house.  In spirit you experience the flowing of creativity.  At the things-noun level, you experience the capacities available in the moment, in your own self, in the other, and in the group.  In nature you see the results of working with nature, the elaborated nature.  In spirit you experience the creative force stored up in something.  In essence, you experience three levels of reality in living these five primary relationships.  This provides the lens for working with agreements of harmonic vibrancy that guide human interactions.

In the next post, I will describe three pathways people tend to take through the three levels of perceived reality.

Three Levels of Perceived Reality and Three Circles of Harmonic Vibrancy

The 5th in a 9-post series on Perceived Levels of Reality

Following on the previous 4 posts (starting with “Perceived Levels of Reality“) people perceive three very different levels of reality. Nouns represent the static, momentary outcomes, the capacities presenced here-now, the things. Verbs reflect the flowing, ever moving shifts in relationships and capacities experienced over time, development. The verbs put the nouns in movement. Light focuses on the possibility seen, accelerating the potential, as people participate with it. Light accelerates the verb that moves the noun.

Now I will apply these three levels of perceived reality to the experiences of harmonic vibrancy (summarized in the post “3 Circles of Harmonic Vibrancy“), through the five primary relationships. By listening to what people describe as their experience of the harmonic vibrancy in the five primary relationships (self, other, group, nature, spirit), they describe the levels of reality most available to them.


People described the inner circle, in the figure above, as an experience of scarcity. In this experience, people can only access the things-noun level of reality. In the middle circle of the same figure, the circle of occasional abundance, people can access both the development-verb level and the things-noun level. In the outer circle, where people experience abundance in all five relationships, people can access all three levels of perceived reality. The table below captures the available levels of reality for each circle of harmonic vibrancy.

Circle of Harmonic Vibrancy

Things-Noun Level

Development-Verb Level

Possibility-Light Level










Table: Levels of Reality Accessible in Circles of Harmonic Vibrancy

In the next 4 posts, I will integrate the three levels of perceived reality and the five primary relationships.


Perceived Levels of Reality

The 1st of a 9-post series on Perceived Levels of Reality

Having looked at five relationships through which people experience harmonic vibrancy (self, other, group, nature, spirit), as well as three circles of the vibrancy experienced (low, medium, high), as in the figure below, we see that people in the three circles experience very different realities.  This 9-post series explores the differences in those realities.



To cut to the punch line, as one expands from scarcity to abundance, reality also expands from working with the visibly tangible to including processes of development to working in the possibility realm.  In each circle, people work with different processes, tools, and capacities, because they use different realities.  Now I will describe those realities, starting again with your own experience.

In the inner circle of low harmonic vibrancy, where scarcity dominates, reality consists of the visibly tangible.  This includes what is available at hand, right here, right now.  In the middle circle of medium harmonic vibrancy, where occasional abundance comes through, perceived reality includes both the tangible here-now capacities and the developmental processes of those capacities.  Both and.  At the middle level, one works with what is here and what is being developed.  In the outer circle, where abundance dominates, perceived reality includes tangible capacities, developmental processes, and possibility – three levels.  Once again, both and.

I emphasize “perceived reality,” because all three levels are always present, yet they are not always perceived.  It seems that the level of scarcity/abundance and harmonic vibrancy one experiences relates directly to the levels of reality perceived in the agreements in human interactions.

In their national bestseller The Art of Possibility, the Zanders tell a story to highlight the difference between seeing scarcity and seeing abundance.  “A shoe factory sends two marketing scouts to a region of Africa to study the prospects for expanding business.  One sends back a telegram saying, ‘SITUATION HOPELESS STOP NO ONE WEARS SHOES.’  The other writes back triumphantly, ‘GLORIOUS BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY STOP THEY HAVE NO SHOES.’” The authors go on to explain what they see in this story, “To the marketing expert who sees no shoes, all the evidence points to hopelessness.  To his colleague, the same conditions point to abundance and possibility.  Each scout comes to the scene with his own perspective; each returns telling a different tale.  Indeed, all of life comes to us in narrative form; it’s a story we tell.”[1]

Looking at the stories hundreds of people have told me about their experiences of harmonic vibrancy, some of which I shared in earlier blogs, I find that the ability to perceive and work with these three levels of reality differentiates those groups that experience low, medium, and high harmonic vibrancy.  Furthermore, these three levels highlight what to do to achieve higher levels of harmonic vibrancy and abundance, which I will describe in detail in subsequent posts.

[1] This story comes from (Zander & Zander, 2002, p. 9).

3 Circles of Harmonic Vibrancy

This is part 7 in a 7-part post.

At this point in the conversation, having looked at the five primary relationships people experience in the harmonic vibrancy of the group, it starts to seem like a bit much.  Five relationships experienced at three different levels.  I take this feeling of fullness as an opportunity to summarize what people have described so far.  When people experience greater harmonic vibrancy, which is what they want, all relationships are taken care of, and through those relationships they accomplish more.  Conversely, when people experience less vibrancy, which they do not want, it is hard to pay attention to relationships, and everyone does what they can alone, accomplishing much less.

What I have seen, when I share this summary, is that someone will speak up, saying that this sounds like a set of principles – guiding principles.  Starting from abundance, all relationships work together to generate a higher vibrancy.  Starting from scarcity, the lack of relationship generates a lower vibrancy.  The figure below shows this.  The inner circle describes the experience of the lack of relationship in all five relationships.  Likewise, the middle circle describes the experience of medium vibrancy in all relationships, and the outer circle describes the experience of high vibrancy in all five relationships.


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The questions now begin to focus the conversation, finding that the experience is that of the inner circle, or the middle circle, or the outer circle.  My curiosity about this question as a researcher over the last eighteen years has taken me to teachers who have taught me why it is difficult to see these agreements.  From decision theory, I saw that the judgments people make are full of assumptions of values that others and I have and of how things work.  From systems theory, I saw that the relationships among the actors and the decisions they make generate dynamics that determine system-wide behaviors that are different than what the individuals want or see.  From integral theory, I saw the importance of including the different lenses or perspectives on agreements and transcending them to a higher, more integral perspective.

Interweaving these lessons learned helped me see the harmonic in the stories.  When I asked, some say this experience of the harmonic is like ice cream.  One person is describing the experience of taste – it is all about the sweetness, while another is describing texture – it is all about being both smooth and crunchy, yet another is describing temperature – it is all about being cold, while another describes appearance – it is all about the colors of the cream, cone, and sprinkles.  While each is partially correct, they all describe a critical dimension, bringing in an important voice, and none is complete on its own.  Ice cream is about the perfect combination of taste, texture, temperature, and appearance.  Nobody wants just sweet, just smooth and crunchy, just cold, or just colorful.  Others liken it to music, where the richest songs that move us most have rich harmonies, where each voice contributes to the harmonic, yet no voice alone sings it.

Now comes the realization of the agreements driving the experience of scarcity or abundance in any group.  People are choosing to experience lower vibrancy most of the time.  That’s the inner circle of scarcity.  Why would they do that?  Maybe because they are not aware that it was an agreement they were making.  Could they make different agreements?  It is easy to see how they can make different agreements, sometimes.  But it seems hard to figure out what this means for different groups.  It gets pretty complicated.  Or does it?  In Tom Robbins’ saga of the many facets of the beet, Jitterbug Perfume, Dr. Dannyboy summarizes what he has learned, “The universe does not have laws.  It has habits.  And habits can be broken.”[1]

My request to you

I invite you to share here your own experiences of these relationships to the harmonic vibrancy you experience.


[1] See (Robbins, 1990, p. 312).