You can choose the experience you want. In the third blogpost in this series, you decided what experience you wanted. In the 4th step, we ask what agreements shape that experience.
Underlying your experience is a set of agreements that determine, in great part, what experience you have. These are the rules of the game. In the following 2-minute video and 2 audios, we explore what agreements are and how you see them.
A 23-minute conversation between Jim and Jackie regarding agreements (click on the MP3 file Making an Agreement)
A 44-minute conversation between Jim and Orland Bishop about agreements, what they are, why they are important, and how people work with them (click on the MP3 file Orland Bishop and Jim Dialog on Agreements).
What agreements can you see that shape your experience? Could you choose different agreements? Could you talk about this choice with the other people in the group?
In the next series of blogposts, you and I will explore how to design agreements.
You can choose the experience you want, every day. In the second blogpost in this series, we mapped your experience on the 3 Circle diagram.
In the 3rd step, you choose the experience you want. Given what you saw in the mapping of your experience in Step #2, is that the experience you want in that group? Is that the experience that you feel is available to the group? The experience that the group could have, if it only decided so. Here are some blogposts describing ways of seeing what you know about this choice:
In this 3rd step, describe the experience you would prefer. Describe how this is different than the current experience.
In Step #4, we will look at the agreements underpinning this difference in experience.
You can choose the experience you have, every day. In the first blogpost in this series, we made the distinction between low and high vibrancy experiences–the 1st step in choosing the experience you want.
In the 2nd step, we map your current experience. We will use the 3 Circle diagram to capture the description of your experience, in a way that differentiates the qualities of the experience you have and want. In the following 24-minute video, you and I take this second step.
When you map your experience onto the 3 Circle diagram in the video, what level of vibrancy do you see?
You can validate where you map this experience through the more in-depth, free, online, 12-minute survey we have used globally by clicking here.
You can choose the experience you have, every day.
Most of the experiences you have are formed by a set of rules to a game that you have accepted, consciously or unconsciously. Many of these experiences are not the ones you would choose. You can change that.
I will take you through a 4-step process that we have uncovered over the past 10 years. The process brings together what my colleagues and I have learned in our own attempts at choosing agreements, and what we have learned from the one hundred groups we have met in over a dozen countries and from the thousands of people that have taken the vibrancy survey in 94 countries. The process is simple and hard. It is simple in that you only have to see the agreements you have and choose the ones you want. It is hard in that you have to see what was previously invisible and you have to enact your choice. We use the following 4 steps to make the hard simple.
- See what you already know about your experience
- Map your current experience
- Choose the experience you want
- Ask what agreements shape that experience
In this series of 4 blogposts, I will walk you through these 4 steps, after which you will be able to choose the experience you want and see the agreements that support that. After that you can decide whether you want to learn more about the design of specific agreements, which I will share in the next series on designing agreements.
Step #1 — See what you already know about your experience
You are hardwired to know. You know when you experience low vibrancy in a group or place, and you know when you experience high vibrancy. This knowing can show you everything you need to choose a different set of agreements. The first step is to understand what you are hardwired to know, the difference in your experience of low and high vibrancy groups.
In the following 7-minute video, you and I take this first step.
In the next blogpost, we see how to map your current experience.
When guiding someone through a Harmonic Vibrancy Move process, to support them in consciously choosing their agreements, I have found it useful to remember a small set of guardrails. This minimal set of “guardrails” supports us in staying on the desired path as we encounter the infinite complexities that arise in any process.
I use the guardrails as reminders, as supports for seeing, choosing, and enacting agreements with individuals, small groups, and very large groups. These guardrails provide reminders for the principles we want to co-host along the transformational journey. The five guardrails I use are: (1) abundance-based (2) co-hosting of (3) a collaborative (4) inquiry into (5) the agreements, experience, and outcomes available within the system.
- abundance-based. Am I being abundance-based, open to the potential, to the possibility available in the group and to how to manifest it? Are the processes I am facilitating supporting abundance-based inquiry?
- co-hosting. Am I engaging my own hosting intention in the process? Am I remembering that the others, nature, and spirit are also hosting this with me? Am I facilitating that co-hosting?
- a collaborative. Am I inviting the unique contributions of all participants? Are we collaborating to produce a synergistic harmony from the combination of our contributions?
- inquiry into. Am I coming from a place of knowing or asking? If I don’t know and you don’t know until we see it together, I must foster and co-host a space, a process of inquiry, an inquiry into the possibilities we see when we bring together our individual contributions.
- the agreements, experience, and outcomes available within the system. We engaged in the Harmonic Vibrancy Move process, because we saw that something greater than our current reality was available to us. We know that the vibrancy we experience tells us about the quality of the underlying agreements we have, and the outcomes available. Am I checking in continuously with myself and with the others to see what our experience is indicating about our agreements and outcomes? Are we open to seeing new possibilities, in our experiences, agreements, and outcomes, and seeing pathways for manifesting the new possibilities?
If you have developed other guardrails for co-hosting a group through the Harmonic Vibrancy Move process or would like to share your experiences in using these guardrails, please include them in the Comments section here.
Guest blog by Eyal Drimmer, counseling psychologist with focus on personal, group and organizational transformation and development
To support my work with groups on their Agreements Evidence Maps, I compiled a working paper with relevant information to build an Agreement Evidence Map (click here to access the Google Doc). The document is based on the text from chapters 4-6 of Ecosynomics: The Science of Abundance, different blog posts as well as some of my own thoughts and structures.
I offer it to the Vibrancy community working with Agreements Maps, and invite you to collaborate on enriching the document. The final destination of this collaborative effort is the building of a comprehensive Agreement Maps Handbook (max. 20 pages). Feel free to add your experiences and ways of working with Agreement Maps, to change or restructure the document or to leave comments with impulses and suggestions. You can work on the Google Doc in your Internet browser without installing any software and your changes are automatically saved.